Motivation and Doubt

It’s funny how we are constantly in doubt of ourselves. It’s this unspoken statement in the back of our minds that is telling us that we’re not worth it. The constant drill grinds us down until we’re screaming and kicking in the dentist chair of life and the novocain is nowhere in sight. How did we even get there? Where does the blame fall when we find ourselves in these types of situations—our parents, friends, perhaps even ourselves? What is stopping us from doing that we don’t think we can do?
Anything is tangible as long as you can think it—the hard part is not thinking about it—and just doing it instead. We get so psyched up for something and then we back down because we’re afraid to fail, we’re afraid of rejection, we’re afraid of what everyone else might think. First off, failure is the first step to success because it tells you exactly what you need to do which is obviously the opposite of what you were originally doing. Next, rejection is purely a subjecting thing. If people are rejecting you for your shortcomings then they’re not the type of people that you need to have in your life anyway. Cut them out and you’ll see life in a new life. Lastly, it’s not so much what others might think, but rather what we think that they will think—which once again is subjective and purely biased against us because we are our own worst critics.
The last time you said something negative to yourself did you continue keeping them self-image? Be honest with yourself, if you told yourself that you’re fat did you continue to keep that self-image and therefore act in a manner that might be different than someone who is skinny acts? The answer is that you did. Get over the negative self-talk and move on with your life. This isn’t high school anymore—we’re adults and we’re not helpless—help yourself.
Now that we see where our problem lies—fix it. Find things that complement what is related to where your negative self-image lies and then tell yourself the exact opposite. If you think that you aren’t smart enough, tell yourself that on the next test you’ll do well. Then name off five reasons why you’ll do well. Convince yourself of something other than what your negativity does. After you’ve done that, believe it more than a child clings to the hope that Santa will come and deliver on December 25th. As well, don’t sit around and wait for things to change. If you have to do well on something, study, prepare, and make ready for what is needed to do well. After that, set all stress aside because you’ve done it—that is, you’ve done everything that is possible for success. Success just comes naturally after that. Maybe not right away, but success does come because you want it. Want and you shall receive—work your way to what you want and before you know it you’ll have it.